9 Psych Effective Ways to Emotionally Detach
Someone asked, “Why do I feel so much? I want to forget that person but can’t. Feels like a pendulum letting that person go/come in my mind.”
I answered, “it's just the expectations and emotions playing with you.”
THE MIND. It plays a very vital role in reacting to your body. It listens to your thoughts and hormones get released which ultimately shape your body. A happy person isn’t just mentally fit but physically too. Research says that mental/emotional pain is worse than physical pain which can even cause some illnesses/diseases.
It's easier said than done to get past your person. Some or the other time when that vulnerable nerve hits and you have your flashbacks again. It's never about deleting but in fact making it so old that it starts appearing blurry. In life, it's about chapters getting added but never deleted. They may get old that they almost seem forgotten. Stop replaying the memories in your mind and make those old chapters fresh. No emotion is bad or good. It is how we manage that emotion that makes us more emotionally intelligent. :)
There are often times when you are left with no other choice but to forget that person to live in peace. Letting go is never easy, especially for the person you loved the most. Some tips and tricks which could be useful to ease your pain and get over the attachment. Though it also depends on a person’s nature.
- Realize a strong reason to get detached and replay it if you feel so intense to go back.
- Stop over-thinking. Do not chase your thoughts unless you can’t do anything about them in real. The human brain has a tendency to create the simplest thing into the most complex just by thinking unnecessarily more.
- Go out to the positive vibes place. Could be a temporary solution but a step towards thinking with a clear and peaceful mind. Go out for a walk, surround yourself with nature or give a break around mountains, beaches, or greens.
- Meditation and Yoga definitely help. But this will work when you are not so high in instability state because for meditation also you need to have a moderate level of peace. Yoga is about breathing so focusing on your breath helps to maintain your blood and stress levels.
- It’s believed that the overwhelming state is the best moment when you can find yourself more creative. Utilize this flooding energy into positive which could be useful for you. After all, in a later stage of life, you could say that at least it helped me to achieve this.
Perhaps perfect time to focus on yourself more. Go for upskilling yourself. Learn new things. Create new good habits. Perhaps a new hobby. Hit a gym. Travel and make new contacts. Do something which includes the engagement of both your mind and body together.
- Watch out for some positive videos which act as an external push to hope and think differently from a different perspective.
- This time you wanted to be alone in solitude but the fact is if you are too emotional at the moment to handle yourself then give yourself some time. Hang out with people. Do not share the grievance because repeating it will gonna just multiply the impact (depending if that person is a solution-giver). After some time when coming back into your sane senses, give a thought on why you reacted so and think for a solution.
- Sometimes writing the stuff out not only release your emotions but also help you in bringing towards a solution. So start journaling and pen down the emotions to not overload them inside you.
- Give a call to some of your old buddies with whom you lost contact for years. Trust me, it gives joy to both the sides and perhaps you feel more connected now than before.
Most importantly, do not forget your self-worth. It's all in your mind. Play psychologically with it.
It’s a saying,
Do not even joke about yourself because your body doesn’t know the difference. Your subconscious mind captures the words as energy and words cast spells that’s why it’s called spelling. So, change the way you speak about yourself.
It’s just a matter of your emotions and hormones. You are unbelievably strong and a director of your own life. You have come so far. Do not let it get thrashed because of some another person, just as of granted.
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Peace! 😄 👼
